we are the same Aussiegirl. we each have a couple of things that are a must, no questions, and don't even think about a place until it meets both of our lists. (although 90% of the things are on both our lists.) but maybe think of a few things you must have, have him think of a few things you must have and see if this place meets those things. although obviously building will be easier to meet the list... but depending what those things are, might not be possible even building a place.