tanster, we are def on the same page.

if i had my way (which i should, its my body right?) then i would be hbing my baby with a doula and a independant middy. with hospital as a back up.

Nah, of course the middy at the hospital didnt speak of the risks involved with a c section. they never do. and i find that disguisting!
i wasnt induced with ds, i went into spontanious labour at 40 weeks he was born by c section on his due date. i was in labour for 37 hours though, so i was tired, and the oxytocin was causign issues... again, they didnt tell me the risks with THAT either. but i wont vent about my past c section. i have done that for 18 months now, and to be honest, i am in an ok place about it i jsut want a positive gentle beautiful birth for this one.