Hi there
I am now 11weeks and have known since pre-preg that this birth will need to be c/s also due to medical reasons (major tearing of uterus during last emerg c/s). With the extra vertical scars I have it is too risky to attempt another vbac.

In my world I am surrounded by either earthy births women who would not dream of anything other than homebirth ( my last birth was a planned home vbac) and find the idea of elective c/s so foreign and then I have friends who are I'll informed and have had c/s all the way, most of them don't know why and one doesn't even remember who her obs was! Two of them were repulsed by the idea of looking at their placenta never mind taking it home to bury.

I know we are all different, but I am feeling alone. I desperately want to experience a vaginal birth but this can never happen for me. That dream us over. I have almost accepted that but I wish I could feel understood by those around me.

I am in the midst of planning And negotiating the best caesarean birth I can for my baby and I. I hope it will be joyful and calm. My previous two births were not (emerg c/s).

I would love to hear any really empowering, positive birth stories and any recommendations for my birth plan.

Thanks so much
Xoxo