a diaphragm I think we have better alternative these days
Well, if you "hate" the male condom so much and don't want a hormonal method of contraception, the only option you are aparently left with (aside from natural fertility methods, rhythm method etc) is an IUD. Personally, I don't think they are a better option. I don't like the way they are thought to work.
I know many people who have diaphragms fitted and find them easy and convenient.
IMO still worth considering.