Feeling my SIL's Pain

[maz]

My SIL had her baby this week.
Her birth plan was very much like mine with Dudie...wanting the all natural no drug experience. An inductions was started as she was 2 days over and the ob had said that baby would be big for weeks on end.
I didnt think to mention a S & S as I thought being nurses that she would know let alone her sisters and mother NOPE. They have no idea what it was.

After a 5 hour labour baby was in stress and an emergency c/s was performed. I hear from MIL that SIL is really disapointed at herself for not being able to birth normally. I just want to give her a big hug and let her know she did good either way.

Sorry rambling...i suppose Im disapointed that SIL didnt chat to me before hand (Im to much of a hippy apparently) and disapointed she didnt get the birth she wanted.

[blue_hebe]

I'm sorry too. It's disappointing when we are unable to help each other...

I hope your sister still enjoys her new baby and comes to accept her birth experience in the end.

[teresa]

maz - i am a nurse and i didnt know what a s & s was until i came on here. its a midwife thing and unless u work in womens health, u wouldnt know what it was!!

i had a c section (had no choice) and i know what your feelings are associated with it. the best thing to do is give lots of TLC and let her know that its still all ok and she hasnt failed at all and her little one will still love her no matter how she/he entered the world. big hugs

[Arimeh]

Poor thing I hope she gets over the disappointment - its a shocking thing to have to deal with

[Jakabella]

Sounds like my Birth Plan too and I ended up with a emerg C sect after being induced after 16 hrs of labour.. I totally get how she is feeling.

Hugs to you and hugs to your SIL.

xox

[maz]

thanks everyone.

Its so hard living so far away from her. I have to wait 2 weeks until I see her and meet my new little nephew and i remember how low I felt in those 2 weeks.

I tried to ring her yesterday but she was busy...will try again tonight just so she knows someone else has been there and she can let it out without a lecture or I know.

thanks guys

[~Minny~]

I hope she can work through it

[krisp]

This makes me sad to read. Not because yout SIL had a CS but because she felt her birth wasn't "normal". I have experienced both an emergency CS and a vaginal birth. I am eternally thankful for the Dr who assisted ny son into this world through a CS. Without that surgery he/we may not be here and that doesn't bear thinking about.

Now don't get me wrong, I too felt cheated initially after my CS. But I have time to think about it and have come to the conclusion both my births were "normal". One was assisted surgically and one wasn't. I am blessed and lucky , not diaapointed and definitely not regretful.

I hope your SIL can feel positive about her birth and baby soon. Life is fleeting and all babies no matter how they arrive are a miracle.