We've got some bad news. It looks like we might have conjoined twins

We can't be sure yet and I am praying they aren't, and that t hey will find a membrane so they aren't in the same sac either, it is possible.

But if the 7 week ultrasound is right and they are conjoined - my OB is strongly going to urge a termination (he told us this, though he held some hope its too early to tell for sure).

His reasoning is that a) conjoined twins overwhelmingly have huge problems b) they you have to have a full old fashioned vertical c section to get them out c) that means huge peritonitis risk unlike the transverse caesar, and d) risk of too much damage to the uterine wall to ever carry to full term again (not talking VBAC here, just getting to term) and e) some real risk of death which usually in this day and age is so miniscule you don't need to give it a second thought.

I still pray we don't have this choice before us, but I can't help t hinking about it. I can't imagine aborting my babies. I've never been very pro-choice in the political sense (though I don't fit pro-life either). I don't think it is something that's right to choose if there's no medical reason. I never had a problem with having it done for a medical reason and yes this is a good medical reason but for me, I'm still not comfortable with it. If someone else was in my position I could totally support her decision to abort, but I don't think I can bring myself to do it. Does that make sense?

On the other hand i do not want to not be here for my DH and DS (and hell, none of us wants to die anyway do we?). I really want to have another chance at a pregnancy, and I'm also worried if I'm critically ill and take months and months to recover that it will be extremely difficult for DH to manage essentially on his own with FT work and DS (and me). Add to that we could have very very sick babies, or grief at their loss, in our lives.

I was a bit shocked, because I know we've all heard the wonder-stories about conjoined twins being separated skilfully and ending up relatively ok (I know there's more to it but you kwim). But he was completely adamant that he would not want to deliver them for their sake and mine if they were conjoined.

Can anyone else share thoughts on this so its not just me with them rattling around in my brain?