Very tough question re old fashioned full vertical c section

[fatmama]

Thanks! The thing is to me, while obviously its a huge thing if the twins were to be permanently in an awful quality of life- I had a condition as a newborn that my Mum was literally told, and I quote "let her go and have another baby, she's just going to suffer" and I turned out great. Yes I have lifelong health issues but they didn't stop me living a full and happy life so far..and are not likely to stop me appearing pretty normal until I'm like 80 or something. She begged for the treatment knowing I could have been in pain and suffering and disabled. I was actually in very traumatic care for 2 years and hse must have wondered if she'd done the right thing, but now we know she did (at least I think so!).

So I'm loathe to say "their lives aren't worth living" even if we knew what problems they faced, and when we only know the possibilities its even harder.

I guess I feel I don't fit on the termination board just because I have such a limited view of when its even appropriate to talk about having one - I suspect a lot of women on there are very pro-choice and I just don't see choice as appropriate word for a medical procedure, let alone this one.

Has anyone had a full caesar? Would you share anything you were told about them? I know I have to factor in my med history as well but even knowing what you were told would be great.

[~clover~]

I guess I feel I don't fit on the termination board just because I have such a limited view of when its even appropriate to talk about having one - I suspect a lot of women on there are very pro-choice and I just don't see choice as appropriate word for a medical procedure, let alone this one.

Thats ok, I totally understand.
You will find alot of support here. The support groups are private if you change you mind.

[Rach75]

I meant to say I had to make a heartbreaking choice at 21 weeks with my daughter so I know how you are feeling about cutting you pg short ( i do know a greta website which is specifiaclly for people who have had to make the heartbreaking choice due to medical conditions)

[blessedatlast]

I am so so sorry fr the decision you may have to make.. No other words just lots of I have had a classical C section (vertical) to deliver my premmie twins though and I have been told definitely no VBAC but subsequent pregnancies are fine.. There is a higher risk of uterine rupture and I was advised to wait at least 6 months before TTC.. Preferably a year.. I hope that helps.. I hope you don't have to go through such a heartbreaking decision.. I know this is different, but my babies survived for 8 days before having massive brain bleeds that got worse over the next 4 days.. We agonised, spoke to doctors, social workers etc before making the decision to turn off their ventilation at 12 days old as we were advised they would not have any quality of life.. It was the hardest decision..