I know having an elective c-section seems wrong in well a lot of peoples eyes, to have surgary when there is no medical reason to do so. Ever since i got married and my husband and i talked about having children i have alway said that an elective c-section is for me. now that i am 6 months pregnant people close family and friends do not understand why i would do this! Now i am so confussed about what i want and its getting to me! I am starting to feel like i am going to do something wrong. does anyone have any advice or felt this way?
i think PrettyB has hit the nail on the head...research, research reasearch! research the c-section and the vaginal delivery and find out for yourself, what it is that *might* be stopping you from wanting a vaginal birth and prefering surgery.
that way, any decision you do make is an informed one, one that you can stand up for and most importantly feel comfortable with.
I can REALLY recommend a book called Delivery By Appointment by Michelle Hamer (Australian Author) It is neither pro nor anti Caesarean, and I think would be a great place for you to start to help make the best decision for you.
Birth is a very personal thing but the more knowledge you have the better.
I've personally had one caesarean (elective for medical reasons so no labour) and personally I struggled afterwards. Not physically, my physical recovery was heaps easier than I expected, but emotionally. I had troubles with Bonding and breastfeeding (milk not coming in properly) and these were all attriuted to the caesarean because my body did not produce any of the labour and birth hormones that help you fall in love with your bub and help milk production etc. That is just me though and everyone is different. Also my cs was under a general anaesthetic because the anaesthetist couldn't get the epi in properly so that's another reason my my experience was so negative. I'm not trying to turn you off having a CS but it's important to know that like a vaginal birth, a caesarean doesn't always go to plan.
Best of luck with your decision
Last edited by ~mamaspice~; November 12th, 2009 at 08:56 PM.
Funny how everyone else wants to stick their nose in something that's such a personal decision and a personal experience. I guess it's (usually) just because they care. But honestly I don't think it's anyone else's place to say how you should birth your baby.
I personally feel that it is totally up to you if you want to elect to have a cesarean. If that is a choice that is available to you and you want to take it, then it's between you and your doctor and no-one else.
I agree with PP's that you should research and really think hard about why you want the c-section over a vaginal birth. Not because I think there is anything wrong with that choice, just because if you are firm on your reasons and know what you're in for, it will make you feel more sure about your decision, and other people's opinions won't make you feel so confused and unsure. It will also help you have a more positive birthing experinence. If thinking deeply about and researching your decision makes you realise that you're not feeling confident about it, then you might like to consider the alternative... it's certainly not too late to change your mind and prepare for a VB.
Either way, it's your body, your baby, your experience, your choice.
its your choice! forget them but I will let you know it is quite painful after and you do have to take medication. I had trouble breastfeeding and now have no milk after trying to get good attachment for 2 months. (its hard to sit up) you also cant bend over and pick your bub up for a good few days. I had a c section after 30 hours of labour and it wasnt a pleasant experience for me, but i was exhausted and had been in alot of pain, it will be different for you. You also will need a needle everyday for 2 or 3 days to stop bloodclots. Im not trying to put you off but just inform you its not like it is on RPA or in movies, it can be just as hard as a vaginal birth if not more. for me i will NEVER do it again if i can help it. My bub also had a little cut on his head which is one of the risks but he was fine. they will explain this all to you. Good luck with whatever way you birth your baby, and remember it is still a BIRTH dont let anyone tell you otherwise!
i agree, u need to research. I ended up with an emergency c/sec. It was fine while they were doing it etc, but aftwards.. omg. OWWWWWWW. U need help sitting up (as they cut through your stomach muscles), u need help walking, feeding bub, showering, going to the toilet etc etc. I cant say im not trying to put u off, coz in a way, i am. There is no way i will have another c/sec. Its been over 12 months and its still numb down there from all the nerves that were cut. Not good.
So at the end of the day, its up to u. All i can do is advise on things i have been through myself. I have no idea what its like to have a natural birth, so i can gve my opinion on that one.
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