I already feel like I am being judged.

[LionsandBears]

Have the people judging you been in your shoes? Did they have an emergebcy cs under GA? Have they held their dead baby in their arms? Did they go home with empty arms? Do they want to try that on, even for just one day? I bet they havent and I bet they dont.

I cant believe you're dealing with this already. I have no idea what we'll do, if we ever get that far again but there's no way in hell I'm going to 40 weeks. I will do what's best for me, the baby and my DH. Mental health is a huge part of handling subsequent pregnancies and births. If a scheduled cs means who dont lose your mind and you take home a living child, then that's a wonderful, empowered birth for you.

People are entitled to an opinion. In this case, they should exercise the option of keeping their ill-informed opinions to themselves.

[Nai]

That is really sucky that anyone could judge you especially if they any knowledge at all about what you have been through. You are doing what is best for you and your family. I wouldn't be telling people how you are choosing to birth at all. It really is none of their business.

[blessedatlast]

Have the people judging you been in your shoes? Did they have an emergebcy cs under GA? Have they held their dead baby in their arms? Did they go home with empty arms? Do they want to try that on, even for just one day? I bet they havent and I bet they dont.

I cant believe you're dealing with this already. I have no idea what we'll do, if we ever get that far again but there's no way in hell I'm going to 40 weeks. I will do what's best for me, the baby and my DH. Mental health is a huge part of handling subsequent pregnancies and births. If a scheduled cs means who dont lose your mind and you take home a living child, then that's a wonderful, empowered birth for you.

People are entitled to an opinion. In this case, they should exercise the option of keeping their ill-informed opinions to themselves.

Well said!!! Subsequent pregnancy is so hard on your mental health. Sure I'm grateful to be pregnant again, but it's really tough sometimes. Then of course there's guilt. Guilt about everything, you didn't do enough, you did too much. You have that anyway without people telling you that your decisions aren't right. They don't know what is right for you and your baby.. Even sometimes we don't know, but we do the best we can at the time, just like every other mother..

[Ahurani]

Thanks girls. I hope I'm just not overreacting. I dont think I am. But I feel I need to put it out there now.

I have never judged anyone for the way they wanted to give birth. Yes, I do have my opinions on different kinds of births etc, but I would never put my opinions onto anyone else. They are uninformed. I don't sit there and read through every method etc.

Peanutter: I think Im so alright with the thought of another C section because with Miss H, I didnt really care how she came out as long as she was okay and I was. *hugs*

Tash: No. These people havent been in my position. Thats what irks me the most.

Ive also had people say "37 weeks?!?". Yes, 37 weeks. My ob told me that at 37 weeks they are cooked. I'm sure if I get to 37 weeks and he doesn't think that he/she is ready to come out yet he wouldnt C section then. I have also had the "private hospital? just because your going to one doesnt mean it is all going to be okay". Yes, I know that. But it's my ob Im there for not the hospital.

Anyway, Ill stop ranting now. Thanks everyone for all your support. I'm sure you will all be behind me *hugs*

[EsJay]

It's your choice and your business, no one elses. You have made your decision, all thats left to be said is enjoy your pregnancy.
people make this choice all the time, and not always with a reason behind it, so why should you (or anyone for that matter) be judged?
wishing you a h & h pregnancy

[skybie]

U know what, make them feel bad and turn around and tell people, my last baby DIED while i was in labour, that'll shut them up quick smart.
love u gorgeous, dont ever feel anything but proud, i said it to u last time, before hayley was due, doesnt matter how they come out, so long as they do

[luna moth]

U know what, make them feel bad and turn around and tell people, my last baby DIED while i was in labour, that'll shut them up quick smart.

Good call.

I absolutely trust your ability to make the right decision.

[Epacris]

Strength, warmth, love and support for you and your birth from me.

[NaeNae]

U know what, make them feel bad and turn around and tell people, my last baby DIED while i was in labour.

I have actually said something similar (different situation to yours though) and I swear it works but not something you would use everytime. Sometimes its the quick, rudely said few words like mentioned above that really makes people think twice before they do it again

[starangelk]

Stand by your decision Hun, I totally support you Xx

[kelebek]

I couldn't agree more with previous posters, this is your life, your pregnancy, your baby, your choice!!

Is it possible to be vague about how you plan to birth? maybe if someone asks you you could reply by asking them what position they had sex last night... a bit of a hint that it is none of thier business.

it is awful that you are feeling this pressure already.

[Beautiful Disaster]

Have the people judging you been in your shoes? Did they have an emergebcy cs under GA? Have they held their dead baby in their arms? Did they go home with empty arms? Do they want to try that on, even for just one day? I bet they havent and I bet they dont.

I cant believe you're dealing with this already. I have no idea what we'll do, if we ever get that far again but there's no way in hell I'm going to 40 weeks. I will do what's best for me, the baby and my DH. Mental health is a huge part of handling subsequent pregnancies and births. If a scheduled cs means who dont lose your mind and you take home a living child, then that's a wonderful, empowered birth for you.

People are entitled to an opinion. In this case, they should exercise the option of keeping their ill-informed opinions to themselves.

I was just trying to word this right and Tashy has said it perfectly. Tell them to bugger off.