I actually agree with you Rouge - and I think you hit the nail on the head about some women feeling like they failed because the system failed them. I don't think it is right that we take on this guilt or feeling of shame or failure. In doing so we are letting "the system" off the hook. Being failed isn't you failing. In this instance, saying you failed means you are somehow culpable. Very few women are, in my opinion. But a hell of a lot of women are happy to put their hands up and say, "I had a caesarean, so therefore I failed".