Im not sure I would agree that by making poor decisions ending up with undesired outcomes then complaining about them is a justification for obs to be more adamant to control or limit the decisions of women. That sort of smacks of women being silly little things and so they deserve to be controlled and told what to do. Is that how you see it ?
Not what I said or meant. It doesn't justify their want to control however whether or not we like it we are in a litigious society and because of this choice has become limited.

See it from the viewpoint that we are in an age right now where women want control of their birthing choices (rightfully so) and let's be realistic - OB's are crapping themselves thinking of the money they'll lose if control is gone.....yes I see this BUT when someone stands up to an OB and goes against their advice then things go wrong, you've just handed them the very justification they need to control the next woman.....

I am all for women speaking out about the injustices this maternity system causes (high intervention, c-section rates, no choice for birthing options such as home birth etc) however I think there is too much blaming when an informed choice is made by the woman and then something happens so they blame the system or the OB automatically.

I really dont think it is possible or should be expected that women should research every possible scenario that could occur be informed yes but having to research every scenario some women might not have time for this others dont care it is the manner in which this information is presented at the time of an emergency so as to leave biases out of the equation present the facts and allow the woman to decide what she wants and then support her through the experience.
Not every single possible scenario - that would mean she becomes an OB - I am talking about being informed about general scenarios such as epidural, premature pushing, alternatives in monitoring, induction, c-section - general options within those situations so that informed decisions can be made....I am not talking about unforseen circumstances that are treated as an emergency with little time to consider the decision prior to making a choice THEN having time to reflect after the fact....

My whole point in all of this is where there is choice there is consequence. We are not in an age anymore where Dr knows all and women are happy to let them run their birthing experiences. BUT with the demand for birthing options to be given back to the women in our society comes a new responsibility for knowing and being responsible for the consequences - it's only when you know the risk vs benefits can you make a birth choice that is right for the individual.