i wasn' t given an actual time frame by the Ob, so we just went with what felt ok. we "played" from a few weeks, but didn't rush into penetration until somewhere just short of six weeks (we had a check up the next day - i was making sure nothing was broken!)

as others have mentioned, it is quite dry from the hormones - particularly if you're breast feeding. it needs to be very gentle as you've had major surgery and you don't want it stirred up too much in there. it takes several weeks for the scars to have full strength. so take it easy, and if you feel ready, go for it. just talk to your DH first about it - let him know that you WANT this to happen, but physically you may have to call it quits because things just don't feel right - it's not personal, it's just part of being a new mum (esp one that has had a c/s). i did this with my DH and he was fantastic when things had to stop and start a bit