Hunny sorry I'm confused so wanted to clarify - are you worried that by supporting her to have a VB, you may have made it worse for her now she's had a c/s? As in you feel bad that you may have added to her guilt and fears that her body has somehow failed her?

Because I don't think you did that. I think you encouraged a friend and gave support for a decision she had made, in this case a VB. That's what friends do.

Caesareans statistically do not present the best outcomes for mum and bub, but in this case it may have been the best thing for her and her baby. So I reckon you go there and say you're proud of her, and what she's achieved. And provide encouragement for the future too. You are a good friend for the support you have given, and wil continue to be a good friend, I'm sure, for the support you will give her in future.