Hi Glenny

I am in the same situation as you. I had an emergency c-section with my DS and my babies will be 16mths apart. I laboured all day and was fully dialated but he wouldn't come down. They are happy for me to try for a VBAC with lots of monitoring and I have to go to a different hospital, but numerous midwives and doctors have said that it is highly likely I have an incompentent pelvis. They can't guarantee that it wont happen to me again. I would really like to have a natural birth, but I have to consider that I could end up having a emergency c-section again. I had a lot of trouble with my milk coming in with DS and although I didn't find the recovery that bad. I know it would be a lot better if I just had the c-section and not the labour and lack of sleep before hand. I don't like the fact that I wont be able to pick up my son after the c-section, but I know that with my supportive DH being home with me, all will be okay.
Good luck with your decision and do what feels right for you not what others think you should do.