Hi Ladies, thankyou for your replies so far! Yes the time spent in recovery would be pretty lonely. Pink Palace has a point though, it would be difficult to have people there when it is one big open room. My personal opinion is that if baby is well then there should be your partner, a midwife and your baby with you in recovery so you can attempt a b/feed etc straight away. It has been proven that it's sooo beneficial for mother and baby but still it's not routine practice in most hospitals. I guess it comes down to hospital resources though, which is a real shame.
Hi everyone, sorry for being so slow in posting. I hope that my thoughts will be worth the wait!!!
As Kelly said I have been a doula for mums not only having natural births but also those needing c/sections ? both planned and unplanned. And while I have also been in both the operating theatre and post-op, there has also been many occasions where I have not been allowed in either!
Being a doula, of course, I feel that any woman should be allowed to have who she wants to support her through her birth (no matter how it ends up) and the postnatal period. And it shouldn?t depend on the type of birth she has. But I?m also aware of the constraints of the medical system.
When I have supported in the theatre, I sit next to the husband and while he usually strokes her head, and then touches the baby when they arrive, I can hold Mum?s hand. I can give a bit of a running commentary (I don?t have a weak stomach, so I peep occasionally over the curtain) in a soft voice to Mum and Dad. I let them know about the procedures that need to be, and are performed, so they are fully informed. (If it is a planned c/section, I have gone fully over this at a previous meeting.) Nurses usually do take photos during the birth, and I can take them after baby has been presented to Mum and Dad. I am encouraging and calming to parents who are usually quite stressed in a foreign environment. I do not move around the theatre, because as Pink Palace said, there is usually not a lot of room, and there is no ?scrubbing-in? because I am not touching anything sterile. I never touch the baby; that is not my place. I do, however, wear ?scrubs?, just like Dad.
I have also been in post-op, sometimes when baby stays with Mum and they need someone to care for the baby if Mum happens to ?crash?, and Dad?s too emotionally close. I can then help with baby?s first feed, help to reposition baby and help to point out baby?s little ?attributes?. Sometimes baby and Dad go to the nursery, and Mum feels lost, and I can stay talking gently to her, supporting her. Post-op is a large, open area, but can usually be partly curtained off, giving privacy to other patients, and I don?t go wandering but stay close to Mum.
However, all of this is very dependant on the hospital, OB, theatre staff, anesthetists, and especially the parents. Remember that Dads in birthing rooms were unheard of 40 years ago and it was the demands of ?the consumers? that made it standard practice. If the parents don?t request/demand that they want their doula or a second support person to stay with them, then the medical staff/establishment will stay within the ?norm?. Parents need to put their wishes in their birth plan, talk to their OB, talk to their hospital, be reasonable but assertive. And it is up to the doula/extra support to be very professional and understand the constraints of the medical system, and be willing to work within them for the safety of the mother and baby. I always make it clear that I am not a medical professional, and will never presume to know more on medical issues than the staff that are looking after Mum (the patient). But I can also bring something special and reassuring to a (usually) frightening and stressful event.
Please feel free to let me know if you want anything clarified.
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Hi Melanie, thanks so much for your reply
That is sooo wonderful that you've been able to be there for some of these caesar mums. In about what %age of the caesars have the hospital not allowed you in theatre or recovery? I guess even though you weren't able to support some of these mums for the birth, you were there to support them in the postnatal period, and no doubt you have been someone with whom they can share their feelings and debreif the birth experience, which is sooo important. I know that when I started to feel sad about my lost birth experience I felt like I had no-one to talk to and those I did confide in didn't really understand why I was so upset about it. So having someone like yourself to be able to talk to would have been a godsend.
Thanks again for your reply.
Last edited by ~mamaspice~; July 23rd, 2008 at 02:17 PM.
Spice, I would say all of the c/sections that I supported have been positively affected, whether it be for the emotional support for both mum and dad that has been supplied, or the information I have been able to provide regarding procedures/protocols/what to expect etc. Sometimes because of the support I provide, the parents feel more confident to pursue changes in hospital protocol. For example, most of the mums that I have worked with have not been separated from their baby in post-op (whether I have been there or not). As a doula, I am not an advocate; I believe it is up to the parents to change policies and protocol, (Dads in the birthing room were unheard of until the mums en masse insisted on it; it didn't happen because of scientific research - see Michel Odent's recent articles) but I provide the information and options for them to decide if it's something they want to insist on. Medical practitioners are more likely to work with the couples wishes than listen to an outsider.
And most of the couples I have worked with also reported feeling much better emotionally about the whole experience.
Late to this but thought I would add. I have had 3 c-sections. For the first with twins I had my mother and my husband in the room. for the second I had my sister and Hubby and for my last I had only hubby ( who was going to watch the other kids..LOL) but I only wanted him just the two of us. I also had my anesthetist who was the best thing since sliced bread. she had had a section herself so she acted like my doula it was perfect. she held my hand stayed by my head telling me what was happening. she watched all my vitals and was quick quick quick with making sure there were no dips , rises or surprises so i was on an even keel, and told me what and when she was giving me anything.. .. she was brilliant. .. I had him at 8 am on the dot and I was out of bed with no pain relief at 9 pm that night.. I had the same OB for all of them and my GP was the assisting. it was truly as "natural" as section could be.. He was brilliant making sure what I wanted to happen happened. He is a skilled surgeon too so was careful to make sure that there was no unnecessary wear and tear so was gently getting my babies out.. so hand in had with all the people there it was such a positive experiences. i knew I would always need section before I got pregnant so I did all i could to make it perfect for me...
DH said that after being "fortunate" enough to be allowed to sit in with my first c/s (emergency, under general) ... he won't be attending another Told me how all my guts were pushed to the side and how ruff they worked with me and how seeing a man cut your wife open with a scapel, brings out the cave-man in you (and makes you want to chuck ... twice!!!)
So I'm coin tossing who I'm asking to sit with me when I deliver this one.
I do think that it's a great idea and should be offered where it's possible
Hi Just wanted to add my experience on here. I had to undergo an emergency c/s and was lucky enough to know the midwifes in the hospital as my sister is one. My DH and sister were allowed to come into the theatre as well as the standard midwife who attends.
So I had DH holding my hand, my midwife keeping an eye on bubs, my drug man (can't spell today, the guy who gave me my spinal ) who was keeping me informed about the procedure and watching over my stats etc and my sister who was like my advocate (trying to tell me I needed a general which I didn't want but was too emotional to speak up). I also had another nurse taking photos of the surgery and bubs. After the c/s, DH went with the midwife back upstairs and my sister accompanied me to recovery with bubs for first feed.
All in all, I was pretty happy with the way it turned out. Still not happy with having to have a c/s but it was a good experience nonetheless.
I think that having someone supporting mothers in these circumstances would be really beneficial as it eases the stress already there. It would, of course, have to be done so as to not interfere with the c/s itself, recovery or staff.
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were pushed to the side and how ruff they worked with me and how seeing a man cut your wife open with a scapel, brings out the cave-man in you (and makes you want to chuck ... twice!!!)
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