What were the best supportive words you heard about a c/section?

[PinkPalace]

My sister is booked to have her C/s (emergency) in about 35minutes.
She just rang me crying and upset that she has to have one under a spinal.

Obviously upset as it wasnt her planned birthplan and upset that she doesnt get to experience Labour or natural birth at all?

I am wondering what was the most supportive words you heard when going for your c/s for a first time bub? (or subsequent for the matter)... would love to pass on some words of encouragement and support for her

[Beach Mama]

Oh hun - basically knowing I had done everything I could at that point helped me, but really when I had her in my arms it made all the tears and fear go away. She has probably had her bubby by now!! Hope they are doing well and she makes a speedy recovery!

[Jennifer13]

I find it helped enormously to think about caring for my DD afterwards and focused on bfing and having her with me. I was keen to stop using the patient-controlled painkiller drip-thingy so that I could get up and about as well.

Also, doing leg stretches, etc when feeling starts to get back into them so I could walk, ditch the catheter and have baby in the room with me.

Hope she recovers well...

[Liviam]

I strongly believe in congratulations the woman on giving birth and life to her baby which is the most amazing gift. It doesn't matter if it came out the sunroof or tunnel as long as she and her baby are safe. No matter what she did give birth to her baby and she is an amazing woman for doing that.
Hope everyone is okay.

[Visitor7]

She's probably had her baby now, so congratulations to your sister on becoming a mummy, and congratulations on becoming an Aunty!
I'm sure once she's holding her baby in her arms, the worry of not having the birth she intially planned on, will be gone.

[shellbell]

After going through the same thing with my DS, I would second the comments made by Dan. I needed to know that I had birthed my baby and given him life, not to mention all the hard work that I had put in for the previous 40 weeks making sure he was healthy and growing well. There is so much emphasis put on the "birth" that it makes you feel so upset when it doesn't eventuate the way you hoped. Really, the birth is only one small step in being a mum, which started at conception and continues on and on.

For some people (myself included) the disappointment doesn't disappear when you get to hold your bub - particularly when it is 2 hours after they arrive. Keep giving her support and let her talk it out if she wants.

Hope it went well and that her beautiful baby has arrived safe and sound!.

[PinkPalace]

hi girls
thanks for your advice
Well a little 7lb 2 oz baby girl entered the world today via the 'sunroof' (thanks nursedan lol).
Healthy bub and mum!

[Tobily]

For some people (myself included) the disappointment doesn't disappear when you get to hold your bub - particularly when it is 2 hours after they arrive. Keep giving her support and let her talk it out if she wants.

Hope it went well and that her beautiful baby has arrived safe and sound!.

I agree. The worst thing you can say to someone who didn't want a caesarean is that it doesn't matter in the end because they've got a healthy baby.

It's so, so important that she be allowed to feel whatever she feels about her little girl's birth and that no one tries to minimise it, or make her feel better by saying things like that. The most supportive thing you can say is actually nothing - let her talk.

Congrats on your little niece!