We've just bought an early 09 PRADO turbo diesel & IM IN LOVE WITH IT!! I can't speak as to how it handles a large family, but the car itself is really quite roomy with it being 8 seater (3 in the far back) so I wouldn't imagine it would be a problem.

It gets my vote for handling. We also live out of town on property & so far I've found it fantastic to drive! We've had major rain recently with quite a few washouts & wet roads but you hardly even feel them in the Prado. We recently did a 6hr round trip to the coast & back & it was a seriously comfortable drive & seems really good on fuel too. Now at 28 weeks Im not comfortable sitting at any time, but it really didn't seem to worry me in the Prado lol.

The only thing Ive noticed is that compared to our Nissan Navara we upgraded from, the Prado seems to have smaller rims & tyres??? But if we find it to be a problem we will look into it when we replace the tyres next time. The other thing that was a huge consideration for us was getting bogged, not sure if you're the same? But I really think the toyota's can't be beaten in the off-road aspects. Out of all the cars you've mentioned above I really think the Prado is the more capable '4 wheel drive' vehicle, that's what they're made for.