Child Support and Access question

[Sammiejane]

This question came about as she went to get him baptised and the priest said that the fathers consent need to be gained... basically she is worried that she is going to continually 'consult' him for and gain his consent for throughout her bubbas life as he is the father and would rather not go down the track of CS if it meant that this was going to be the case.

[briggsy's girl]

CS and access aren't inter-related at all and you've been given some great advice

one thing i'll add though - if CSA are telling your friend she is entitled to CS, and she opts NOT to take it - she will not be meeting the maintenance action requirements for family tax benefit, and will lose about $103 a fortnight from her payment - so not only is she down the money he should legally be paying, but also money she could be getting from FAO. if the CSA collect the money, and he chooses not to pay, they will keep record of it, and can hunt him for arrears indefinitely...

[Jesswith6]

I agree with what the others have said.
My eldest DS biological father (I would rather call him something else!) disowned his son from the moment we broke up and 2 yrs down the track wanted access, we had to go through the whole court process and they granted him access once a fortnight(which he stopped doing 6 yrs ago), he also had a massive back pay to give me, ($12,000) That took 7 yrs to pay off and then when he had $100 to pay he did it in a lump sum, leaving me with a centrelink debt.
Tell your friend to go for the maintenance, it may not be a lot but its worth it in the long run

[Lulu]

Ahh Ok. Well from someone single since DD was 5 months old, I can't think of any time I needed the fathers consent. I just told them he wasn't around and I think (to annoy some rude person) I have once said he was dead....She's not baptised though. I totally understand where your friends is coming from. School, medical treatments - none of them were ever a problem.

TBH, the only problem I can think of is if she wants to take the child overseas as you definitely need the consent of the other parent for the passport.

[mum5boyz]

This question came about as she went to get him baptised and the priest said that the fathers consent need to be gained... basically she is worried that she is going to continually 'consult' him for and gain his consent for throughout her bubbas life as he is the father and would rather not go down the track of CS if it meant that this was going to be the case.

I did not need my two oldest boys father's consent to have them baptised in a Catholic church. It did need to go outside my own parish as our parish priest would not baptise "bastard" children (even though I had been married to their dad but in an Anglican church) - and after he called them that I wouldn't have wanted him to. As the priest who did baptise them said every child should have to right to be baptised, regardless of the parents.

[Jesswith6]

I have never heard such rot in my life about needing the "fathers" consent to be baptised!
All I told my Priest was that they weren't in the picture and it was only me.

[Muppity]

I agree with everyone else. While some non-custodial parents hold support payments over the other parent's head over access they are not related at all and aren't a bargaining chip. the CSA will try to get the money from him regardless of the access etc.

As for requiring his consent. Usually saying that he isn't in the picture is enough - it was probably jsut a church or even Priest thing - some are old fuddy duddies.

[Sammiejane]

Thanks girls for your comments, i am going to forward them to her...

feel free to add more thou