Umm, well actually you were in that kind of relationship, so it must have slipped through!
Lucy in the sky with diamonds.
Umm, well actually you were in that kind of relationship, so it must have slipped through!
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I dunno how they work things out I just was honest, i made it perfectly clear that we as christians have a no sex before marriage thing, We told them all the wedding dates too. then changed to partnered parenting just like now, even tho hubbie does not work or claim anything. we live of my payment
I have known of another person whom has lived under the same room with ex but they had to clearly show they paid their own ways and did not share a room. Just call centerlink and Be 100% honest declare everything and see what the outcome is. Always best to be 100% honestwhat ever the outcome honesty is always best
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MG, I can't help you with your query, but I just wanted to give you a massive hug. If you ever want to have a coffee (or meet at a playcentre!!!) just sing out.
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I received this payment when I split from my ex, he moved into the bungalo.
Just had to fill out a whole heap of forms and get someone within the community, my doctor, to write a letter confirming we had split etc.
Was a lot of extra mucking around but I got it in the end.
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MG - call up and make an application. it's not going to be easy, i'll give you that - but you won't know if you don't try. seperated under one roof does happen, but as Lulu said, it's rare. basically, you have to provide statements from people that know you (and it's generally preferred to be people of "standing" within the community, like counsellors etc) that you are seperated. you need to be seen by the community as seperated. all finances (bank accounts, credit cards etc) need to be seperated. you will need to talk to the person at your appointment in regards to your current living arrangements - and i won't lie - it's not always going to be easy or pleasant - they will ask about more than just the rooms you sleep in. there will be questions in regard to care of your child (ie, do you do things together for her, or do you do them all yourself), do you prepare/eat meals together, the sexual aspects (or lack of) in your relationship. financial contributions to the upkeep of the house etc. you will be asked to apply for child support etc if it's granted. if you already have an arrangment in place for private child support, mention that.
it won't be easy, but it's not impossible.
hugs hun - this is a tough time for you
BG
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Likewise!
MG, I can't help you with your query, but I just wanted to give you a massive hug
Big big hugs honey. I am sorry that you are navigating this - it's really tough...
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Thanks everyone. And thanks for the inside advice BG and Lulu.
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i know someone who has just applied for this, and as BG said lots of paperwork, that is required to be filled out by BOTH parties. its not impossible, and definately worth making an application for. Just be prepared for the confronting questions that the application ask. Good luck.
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Hi MG, my XH and I had the same arrangement when we first separated, I didn't get the payment from centrelink after a while we ended up doing a week on week off arrangement, so one week I stayed with a friend while he stayed in the house with the kids the next he stayed with a friend while I stayed in the house with the kids, I think then O started to get a payment (I was working part time) but getting the part payment from centrelink helped with me finding my own place. But was definitely too hard to get anything while still under the same roof.
Was a very hard time mentally, emotionally and financially but you'll get there in the end.
Best of luck
ADDIT: Just saw post by tiggerandpooh, my X was very uncooperative and was refusing or holding up any paperwork centrelink or otherwise so that wasn't really an option for me, but I hope you can work it out that way
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