is there help if dh takes time off work to look after me and kids after a c section?

[ashie]

hopefully he'll have some annual up his sleeve, might be able to get my sister's to help their not working but they have a child each but kids can have a play date lol. going to see if we can morgage halted for a couple of weeks when bub is born cause we have never missed a payment so we are in front. its silly thou were supposed to be recovering from major surgury and yet we are entitled to have the help to recover, my mum when she had her c section was able to have home help just so they can get washing on and off the line and other bit and pieces of house work she was not able to do for a few weeks.

[Indadhanu]

Rather than your DH taking unpaid time off, would it be cheaper to hire a cleaner or mothers helper for a few days a week for the first few weeks?

[Antheia]

How about a postnatal doula? They do cost but most have payment plans and honestly it'd be worth it. Not only can they help with the housework but they can help to settle bub if you need a break and if you have any breastfeeding issues.

[Lulu]

hopefully he'll have some annual up his sleeve, might be able to get my sister's to help their not working but they have a child each but kids can have a play date lol. going to see if we can morgage halted for a couple of weeks when bub is born cause we have never missed a payment so we are in front. its silly thou were supposed to be recovering from major surgury and yet we are entitled to have the help to recover, my mum when she had her c section was able to have home help just so they can get washing on and off the line and other bit and pieces of house work she was not able to do for a few weeks.

This isn't the kind of help Clink provides. I'd start with your local hospital or council. However remember, there is a point where it's up to you to look after yourselves or ask for help without anyone expecting some sort of handout. You have some time up your sleeves to put away extra $$$, your ptr will have some annual or sick leave I imagine, so it might not be so bad. You can also add a few items to your weekly shop (baby wipes, tinned tomatoes, toilet paper etc) and stockpile them now.

Good on you for planning ahead though.

[Mother Goose]

if you have private health insurance, they can sometimes provide home help (someone to help at home) after surgery.

[ashie]

antheia- thanks i will look into that! thankyou for letting me know! thats what i wanted to know if their is help i can get and if i can pay it off well thats even better! just looking for someone to help me pick up where i might not be able to do things specially the first week or two, and to keep an every day schedule

[Floweryfields]

Your best option would be to have dh save up holiday leave and take it when you have bub, that's what most people have to do.

[Just Me]

It is hard trying to juggle everything to have someone help you look after your kids after a c/s. If I have another c/s this time, I have no idea what I am going to do either. DH can't take 6 weeks off work in one go - he is a branch manager and just can't have that long off all at once. He is free to come and go from work as he pleases so he can head in late and come home early, but it is a bit of a worry. I have family around but I don't want to ask them to take time off either ... my other option is to look at putting DS into occassional care for a few weeks - DD1 will be at kindy and I should be able to manage DD2 at home. I am just tossing around a few different ideas - I am aiming for a VBAC so I am in a different boat to you, but having had a c/s already, I realise it is a possibility that I will have to have another one.

Don't know if that helped much, but you aren't alone in wondering what to do. It is an issue for lots of families. At least thinking about it now gives you lots of time to explore your options ... good luck

[Nai]

Firstly he needs to check his HR policies at work in relation to leave entitlements. He may be entitled to extra time off work for paternity leave. He is also able to use personal leave for carers leave to look after you after your c/s. Plus he can access annual leave.

Contact your local council, sometimes there is help for women with multiple young kids who have just given birth. I would also look at hiring some home help - someone who can come in for a couple of hours every other day and do the washing, make some meals and tidy up. I would start putting some money aside to save up for something like that.