Waiving CSA when parent on Clink...

[Lulu]

I don't think you can enter into private agreements when clink is involved. Isn't it along the laws that a parent must maintain their child regardless of the circs. Btw this is my exH, the child is now 16

Yes, he could probably give her back her piddling $27, but after everything that has happened in the past, and the way she has gone about this...it feels a step too far.

eg - had an affair which broke up the marriage, kicked him out of the house and took all assets.
Treated his older son like crap and made him stay in his room on visitation weekends when exh was at work (didn't find out till child was older)
Dragged the kids all over the state whilst she chased various boyfriends
Allowed the child to have all his mates over and bought them alcohol and left for the night resulting in police involvement.
Always happy accepting well over and above CSA rate of payment but crying poor because she couldn't be arsed working no matter she has various qualifications.
Called to abuse us because her foxtel got cut off. We couldn't afford it

Now the child is older and living with him he refuses any sort of contact with her. I believe the final stroke was when she told him she was dying of a kidney problem and he paid for a 'last holiday' for her and financed a car. Then she refused to make payments or register it so he had to reposses it and continue payments. She is not dying, she just wanted a holiday and a free car.
Still don't know why she needed a new car - he father went missing so she went and took his sports car as her 'inheritance' within a fortnight. He has only just now been declared dead. She also got a large amount of cash to shut her up and leave her family alone.

The child has had to call the police after a drunken brawl at her house, the poor kid had to carry his little brother down the road in the middle of the night to keep him safe until police got there.

NOW her latest boyfriend last left her (and run far away), so she gets someone else to pay half her rent and writes a 2 page letter to exH outlining what a crap father he is for expecting her to pay child support.

SO as you can see, it feels like just a little too much.....

He will probably do it though, to get the rancid troll of his sons back

[Fleur]

Agreed, it seems like a LOT too much to have to give back that $27 a month....waaay unfair
But after reading all that...

He will probably do it though, to get the rancid troll of his sons back

It sounds like it might just be worth it

[Lulu]

It's more the phyical act iykwim? He can just give it to the child when he goes off to his mums on the weekend. She keeps saying she can't afford to feed him *sigh

[Fleur]

Oh boy. And I'm sure that $7 a week is going to be a biiiiig help...
But, what she puts through the pokies, now....
Ah well, you can't reason with people like that. Good luck to your XH