Consistency is the most important thing I'm afraid it doesn't matter how you teach them, if its not consistent it won't work. Both my kids have time out, and I also confiscate things etc or ban tv etc, but I find the most effective tool for me is praise. Showing them how they are meant to act or behave is the best way to me. I think separation and thinking time for me is the best way to deal with conflict, then to mediate and teach them the best way to deal with a situation where frustration occurs or conflict even. Then lots of hugs and apologies.

*hugs*
Cailin