Bit of background...a few of you may know the issues mum was having with my 13YO sister; well she has been living with me for about 3 months now and started off great but she is falling into old ways...this was meant to be her "fresh start"

Have busted her smoking a couple of times and asked her not to (once nicely the second time i was p*****d) a) its a disgusting habit (no offence to any smokers) & b) we arent allowed to smoke in our house, we will get evicted for it...both of which i explained to her but apparently she doesnt give two hoots.

Today i get a txt from the school saying you student is absent please reply with a reson for your student...so i call her and she tells me she's in english and she was late to school so its saying she is absent (we live about 100m from school and shes late ) so i call the school back and tell them what A has told me and ask them to check if she's actually in class...get a call back, no shes not in class & she wagged her last 2 classes yesterday.

Called A and asked where she was "at school!!" then one of her genius friends put on a 'teachers voice' and tried to yell at her saying he will send her out of class...so i say WHERE ARE YOU?! Im at the park she says. I said well get your *** to school im not even kidding. Yep no worries.

I knew she wasnt outside i could hear echos; so i quickly drove home parked down the street and what do i find, our house door wide open. Walk in and i hear people frantically moving around run to her bedroom and 2 boys are doing a dash out the window, 2 girls are confused and dont know what to do & the house STINKS of smoke! I kick the girls out, one of them i know so i scream at her and tell her she's not welcome here anymore then i see the boys running down the road and scream at them...

and then it starts..i cant breathe. Hand on my chest trying to take deep breaths & nothing. I ran to my bathroom and i could see the look in As face she panicked & started apologising over and over she followed me to tha bathroom and was trying to help but all i could say was eff off i cant even look at you..slammed the door in her face and she started crying. The i started to breath easy again opened the door and said get your uniform on im dropping you off at school. She flushes the tabacco & promises it wont happen again...

Still saying sorry i said sorry means nothing to me, i hear it on a daily basis from you A...then on the way to school she says i know this means nothing but i swear on my life this will never happen again. I mentioned she may want to consider the people she surrounds herself with as they are leading her down the wrong path & she agrees...for now!!

I get to school take her to the office and say to the lady there heres A and gave her the names of the 4 other students who were at MY HOUSE (!!!) and she mentions that they have been looking for them...

Am going to see what the school does to them and then im making A show me EXACTLY where each one of them lives & am talking to their parents! I dont need this stress especially given my situation at the moment...

I dont know if this is a vent or asking for help. I've asked before and had some great responses...arg i just dont know what to do with her...