Hi Christy,

Not sure if this would work or not, but maybe when she is calm you could chat about mean behaviour, maybe about times when people have been mean to Matilda, and write a little story about it... remind her of what she felt when people were mean, ask if she liked feeling like that, and and have the story go something like "when ____ did this it was mean, it made me feeling ____, i didn't like feeling like that. when I did this to ____, it made her feel ____". Just relating the feelings, reminding her that others feel the same things that she does when something mean happens to them. And then when she does something mean, bring out the story, remind her... it seems a bit tedious especially if shes acting like that alot, but it is something that has worked for some children.

Hope I explained that ok? I think you'll know what I mean. Not sure if its something that would work for her but I hope for your sake (and Jovie's!) that it does!!!!!!!

xxxxx leash