I think we've had a slight break through. He may not have gone to sleep any earlier, or quicker, but he allowed me to walk out of the room while he was going to sleep I sat on the end of my bed instead, from when he first lay down!

I bought him a little battery operated lantern that he turned on & had beside his head. Again, it probably won't help him sleep any quicker, but if I don't need to be in the room with him, I won't feel the need to strangle him so often!
I just need to work on dd. She fell asleep with me sitting, playing with her hair only. It's usually me laying, her hand down my top AND me playing with her hair.
I did try to get her to go to sleep alone, but that ain't gonna happen.

It's a start though! Such a huge step for DS. He would normally be in hysterics if I left the room. Even with the light on.

Feeling good hopefully we can keep it up probably seems so small, but it's so big for us