wdyt? children's behavior

[RhiChiChi]

I think issues with a friend's kids is probably the second biggest killer of a friendship behind issues with the partner your friend chooses.

I do think kids should behave well when out, and certainly when in someone else's home. Mine do, but that's because I jump on them if they don't and they know it. They are allowed a much freer rein at home or my mum's.

If there are children in my home who are doing something I'm not happy with and their parent isn't doing anything about it then I say something gently, and hopefully the parent takes it from there if further follow up is necessary. If they don't then I do. Its my home so to a certain extent my rules.

I'm the same as Lulu.

Unfortunately all parents expectations of how their children should 'behave' is really different. Some are made to sit quietly, others can run around crazily etc.... I know I expect my DD to behave (as in don't play in kids bedrooms, jump on furniture, use a quieter voice when inside etc...) but does that mean she always does? No! But like Lulu, I am on to her if I see her doing something I don't think is acceptable & if I see someone elses kids doing something unacceptable I will step in if the parent isn't around or watching.

[LimeSlice]

I have a really simple rule - if you and your children come to my home, they follow my rules. If you don't parent them, I will.
It works well, and all my friends with kids are well aware that their children cannot disrespect our home and our property. TBH I think there are a few parents that like it this way, as often the children will pull up quicker and better for another mum than they will for their own.
Having said that, there are obviously somethings you just cannot control, and sometimes that includes your child's behaviour - something you will find out, probably to your dismay, as your boy gets older! LOL
But I would probably speak with her, and let her know you are not happy with the way they behave in your home and ask her to step in sooner to calm the situation.

[Arimeh]

Hehe I'm with Onyx

Plus I have also found that a few stern words from someone else will have a far greater influence over their behaviour than me speaking to them - so perhaps you could say something to the kids when they misbehave. After all, its your house and your rules!

[FabFiona]

My kids behaviour can be shocking but I'm very aware of this and never let them out of my sight. It can be boring when we go to the park to catch up with friends and everyone else can sit and have a coffee because their kids aren't inclined to be rough while I'm out with my kids. But I guess that's part and parcel of parenting.

I also never dreamed at 7 months that my kids would be the 'rough ones' that people start threads about.

I"d start having catch ups outside of your place if you want to keep up the friendship.