I think it is important that you make an appointment to talk to the Director about the issue as soon as you can I can understand that you probably don't need any extra stress right now with everything you have going on, but I also think you are not going to feel any better unless the issue comes out and that you can let them know how it has affected your DS. You will prob continue to worry about the care he might recieve also if you do not let them know how you feel.
I think it is important to be honest about the whole situation so that includes honesty about knowing it was the Director. I mean you don't have to go in guns blazing but just approach it from the point of view that you know that this has happened and that you feel there could have been better methods in dealing with your DS at rest time and trying to get him to lie down, and that it has upset you as your DS has been so unsettled since friday and you feel that this is what has caused it, let them know the details of how he has been feeling and reacting and that you just wanted to let them know you are not happy with this and that hopefully next time they can improve on how the stratigies they may use to get children to settle at rest time, ask if there is anything that they think you could do to work with them to help with his behaviour at rest time if this is an issue..
I really hope that they respond professionally to your concerns and also that this was a one off. Make sure if after this is resolved if you do not feel comfortable with how it is resolved or how things are going after time that you begin to look for another service. I just think it is very important to be happy and 100% comfortable with where your children are and different places suit different people but you need to feel confident in the care that is provided for your child and also feel comfortable that you can take concerns to them and that they will be listened to, no one is perfect but often it's how they respond to situtaions like this that will show things, You will feel if it is genuine. good luck !
I agree with the other ladies that you need to make an appointment to speak to the Director ASAP. A comfort item should never be used as bribery for good behaviour.
I got there to pick him up and he was incredibly happy and calm and relaxed and I could see that he'd had an absolutely fantastic time. The girls told me that he voluntarily gave up his dummy to be put in its box, and at rest time he just waited on his bed for them to bring it to him (they have a flock of other kids who mob the basket with the boxes trying to get theirs back before they go to their bed) and after sleep time he happily handed it back. No issues, no dramas, was happy and engaged and played with the other kids all day.
So I'm left with the conclusion that he's picking up on my stress levels and that's upsetting him. The dummy thing may have started it, but he's apparently completely fine now. Just has one parent that's a stressed out basket case and another that's completely exhausted and needs a break.
I'll certainly keep an eye on things and will stress to the centre that he is starting to not have a day sleep every day, and that's fine with me.
I'd take it up with the director again and ask that this not be repeated, that they use other tactics other than his dummy and you are aware that weaning him from the dummy is important, but that you are doing it gently. I'd take the tack that perhaps she didn't realise how important his dummy was to him and you'd be happy to discuss alternative methods.
The fact she did talk to you about it would indicate she wasn't intending the consequences to be so severe. If you're generally happy with the centre I'd say you have a good shot of sorting it out directly, rather than taking him out altogether (which might also exacerbate his anxiety).
Have you thought about talking to someone about early childhood anxiety? You might find it helpful to deal with the fallout and anything else you are concerned about with him. I know Macquarie uni has a specialist childhood anxiety centre that is available to the public and does deal with preschool/toddler issues, not just older kids. I'm sure there are other facilities closer you could access.
GL sorting it all out.
ETA: Just read your post. Sounds like you have it all sorted. Well done, you!
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Sounds like you have it all sorted. Well done, you!
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