If your childs childcare carer shaved her head...

[Indadhanu]

How would you react?

Would you want to be told before hand? In person or is a note ok? Would you be ok with it? Would you be MORE ok with it if you knew it was for a religious reason (even if you follow a different religion)?
Do you feel you need to 'prepare' your child for something like that?


Yes I am shaving my head. It'll be skin bald until it grows. I don't think I'll leave it bald, I'll let it grow until I find a length I want to keep it at. It is for religious reasons, not that I HAVE to shave my head but it's something I feel is what I'm meant to do at this stage of my journey. I work in childcare, with toddlers. I've spoken to my boss and she seems excited and happy for me to do this (not that she could say no but I respect any opinions she has), but wants me to 'be prepared' and we agreed that its important to also prepare others.

So, I appreciate all your answers.

[AliBaby]

Personally hun, I wouldn't mind at all. I am the sort of person who would rock up to CC and say to the carer, "I see you shaved your head, any particular reason or just because?" (in a friendly way).

So many reasons people shave their heads these days. Cancer, raising money for something, hair gone wrong and need to start over, or just personal choice. If it was just personal choice, I would probably say can I touch it and maybe say that you might be in need of a beanie in these cold months coming up! DD would probably want to touch it as well!

[Tinks]

I don't see a problem with it Leasha.

[Kazbah]

Personally, I wouldn't mind. But it really depends on how you are perceived? I mean, if you're thought of as solid, dependable, sensible girl then it may be a shock, but if you're perceived as a bit funky, then hey!

The kids may have a different view than the parents, and if you were to tell the kids before then I'm sure it would be appreciated, specially if you do make it like a celebration - a countdown etc that they'd share with their parents?

Good luck hun

[Lulu]

OMG I read it like what if the carer shaved your kids head!!!!

I wouldn't give a rats buddy. In fact there are a couple of mums at the school with shaved heads. One of them is soooo fricken beautiful to look at - but I think it radiates from her eyes.

ETA - Leash, if you do it - shave a mohawk first.....PLEEEASE!

[Turkish Delight]

i don't see a problem with it either. I'd probably think "whoooooa" but thats about it.

[*Ash*]

I wouldn't have a problem with it either. Go for it!

[sneakysparkle]

i would have no issue whatsoever - but I think it would probably be nice to talk about it with the kids first - I think it would be something interesting for them!

[skybie]

i'd hve no issue with it!
DD1 waould probably give u a funny look and ask where ur hair had gone, but i dnt think it'd phase her.
well done hun, i couldnt do it!

[Floweryfields]

[QUOTE=Lulu;2312285]OMG I read it like what if the carer shaved your kids head!!!!

QUOTE]

Haha, me too!!

[human bean]

I wouldn't have a problem with it - DD isn't in CC yet but I've worked in the industry for years so am imagining how I'd feel on the parent side of things.

The only thing I can think of is some of the toddlers might get a bit of a shock and take a little while to realise it's you! Only for this reason would I consider just letting the parents know verbally so they were prepared when they next bring their LO in if they react differently then normal when they first see you - depending on what age the toddlers are really depends on whether you can truly 'prepare' them .... hope I'm making sense.

[*Beema*]

I would probably look a bit surprised when I first saw it, but after that it would be all cool

Are you thinking of saying goodbye to your looooong hair?

[luna moth]

Having been a CCarer for ages, I have been through a bunch of different hairstyles and colours. Sometimes the kids react a bit strangely - like it takes them a while to adjust - funnily enough moreso to a different colour than a different style though.

I've seen other staff go through changes too, and parents are always supportive, as long as they'r awesome carers (which of course you are)

One guy I worked with had brightly coloured streaks through his hair - it seemed to change almost weekly so we used to make playdough to match his hair!

[Indadhanu]

One guy I worked with had brightly coloured streaks through his hair - it seemed to change almost weekly so we used to make playdough to match his hair!

thats so funny!


As for the kids reactions, I'm thinking of starting to wear beanies and scraves now so that I can come in with it on and it won't be 'new'. Rather than always having hear with no beanies and then going to no hair with beanies. Dunno, seems like a good 'transition'?

[~Kim~]

I think that's a great idea Leasha.

From a mum's point of view you'd have my total support - but I'm sure there are parent out there who aren't as open minded too IYKWIM? Perhaps a little note to prepare the parents as well...like We've been talking about this....in preparation for....

[sconeonamission]

I wouldn't have a problem with it ! My daycare lady would probably tell me she was going to do it, not just tell the kids, iykwim. Can you give the parents a heads-up of sorts, just to let them know? They can help transistion the kids too

[meow]

I think some beanies and scarves now may be a good idea if you work with toddlers. Would be hard those first couple of mornings if they don't want to leave their parents to go to you because they're a bit shocked. Toddlers are like cats- no change please! But then they get over it quickly and I think it's nice to be able to share that experience with them.

With regards to the religious aspect, I would find that nice to hear as it's always good to hear about people's cultures and perspectives of the world. But as an atheist I'd be a bit irked if it was harped on and on about to my toddler. Which I'm sure you wouldn't do, just saying

[onthefly]

I wouldn't mind. I think the kids would probably love it - well DS would, he's pretty exciting about new things. And then he'd probably let me cut his hair too.