My girls are the same, they know the rules at kinder and follow them but at home they are tired, cranky and want attention of any kind. We stay firm and let then know its not going to be accepted if they start to cry, scream or ignore us they go to their room for quiet time. It took about two weeks and they have calmed down and we get to cuddle and play now. It's the downside of having them home for summer then getting back into everything.