Oh, dear Meg i feel so darn disappointed for you !!

... i feel like i have to be a mind reader at my DD's Kinder as i rang the Kinder director (teacher too) thinking i got in nice & early to enrol DD again in for next year to be told ' they ' had made the enrolment date earlier this year (without letting me know) & if i didn't fill in the required forms asap she miss out on the * one * available spot left, clearly no one cares about informing parents even if their child already goes to the Kinder (there is no loyalty there like i though there would be) ... now i feel like i have to query way, way inadvance with everything, so ridiculous

I think your best option for now Meg is to get him into a ABC program for now then at least he is doing the socialising (as that's what 3year old Kinder is all about, so different to 4year old Kinder as you know) ... Good-Luck !!!