Tiger, I think it is a real shame that you have come across this situation. I am thrilled that the latest carer at the boys' day care is male and that as of next week Jack will be in the same room as the male. I think male role models are vital for developing children of both genders. And the male carers that I have come across when they were relieving at Jack's old day care were all fantastic - really enthusiatic and the kids loved them. Please don't take offence to this, but I think sometimes the saying that boys never grow up, they just get bigger, can be true to a point, and this is great for being able to play with kids and relate to them.

Unfortuntely I think you are going to have to "do as your told" on this one and stay away from the girl in question as much as possible. It is wrong, and at the end of the day I think the little girl will be the one most harmed, but I don't think you have a choice. Hopefully once the parents see you interact with the other kids more they will loosen up. But in the meantime please don't risk your job - as a male carer you are too valuable.

I know of male teachers who have changed careers as they were too scared of false allegations. I think it is a hard path you have chosen to be a male carer, but I really commend you for it. And I hope it all works out soon for you.