how do i tell them to stop shortning her name??

[mollycat]

I would be telling her "teacher" that you do not want her name shortened and they are to use her proper first name. If you feel you need to explain yourself - tell them she is getting confused with her name. My sister is Elizabeth and always has used her full name, we wouldn't think of shortening it, although other brothers and sisters have shortened versions of their names. My eldest is Robert - and his name only gets shortened when he goes camping with the boys (and that's only been the last twelve months - he's now 16 - gets called Bertie - which coincidentally was my grandfathers name) - my youngest (11) is alexander - and we do shorten that one - he sometimes gets Alex or Zandy or Zander. I have had words with his teacher who referred to him by his surname in my hearing. I was not impressed.

Anyway back to you. I would talk to the teachers and if that doesn't work go to the Centre Director.

[Michelle71]

My poor cousin hated the thought of shortened names so she called her three boys single syllable names eg Blake .......... who then got called Blakely or Blakey You can't win.

But seriously, gently remind them of her name and ask that they please call her by it to prevent confusion

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

My DS is often called by a nick-name that I dislike. I don't dislike it for other people, just for him. To me, just his first name is short enough: he has three names and I often use all three, so shortening it to one name is enough, one syllable too much.

So I tell people "actually, his name's Liebling, not Lee" (as an example, that's a nickname too - along with Smudgemeister, Kleiner Mann, Little Man et cetera). I also have made sure that he doesn't answer to "Lee"! At home in his first year I'd call him "Lieblingy-blingy-blingy-bling" (that sounds awful but ykwim) and he won't answer to "Lee" now! His childcare were fine with it and don't shorten it. My parents and sister still do and I just stay slient until they add the "bling" bit! DS won't reply to them either.

When he gets older, if he wants to be "Lee" - or go by a middle name - that's fine. It's his choice. But I gave him the name, it's up to him what he does with it, not anyone else. And I want him to love his name and not think all his names together is his naughty name!

[{sarah}]

We had the issue with Alexzander as well, he is Alexzander or Zander, not Alex EVER. My FIL was the worst for it & every time he said it when I was around I finished for him, even if it meant interrupting in the middle of a sentence.

[Beatrix]

thanks girls

I spoke to one of the ladies today and she said she was glad i had spoken to her about it and she completely understands.
She obviously had a word cause when i picked Annika up they made sure i noticed they called her Annika. but they were nice about it.

(for what its worth, the main offender was actually the director)