is it inappropriate? childcare teacher comment

[meow]

^ Ditto!

[StrawberryFields]

So I didn't read the other posts but...

Yup, I think the teacher was out of line. If she is concerned about DD's behaviour, she can at least express her concern tactfully. Its just poor form and plain rude to say something as hurtful as that your kid is more badly behaved than one with a diagnosed condition!

Also - It sounds to me like you just have a highly intelligent child! My cousin is very similar and now at 15 still refuses to do things that aren't challenging enough. He used to get into trouble in primary school for completing his homework in class after completing the classwork much faster than his classmates. He was also described as rude for questioning his teachers in late primary/early high school - and by questioning I mean he knew something more about the topic and asked a question outside of the lesson plan. I went through the same thing though I'm not quite as brainy as my DC, and so did DH. I think you will need to keep an eye on her because highly intelligent kids are often misunderstood by their teachers (as your DD seems to have been), or have learning styles that differ greatly to the norm (favouring kinaesthetic and tactile activities) so they get told they have a 'learning disability' when in fact it is not the case, so their education can suffer if they don't have the right support from both their teachers, and their parents.

But yeah, I think you're just very lucky that your DD has been blessed with some serious brain power! Get her an IQ test when she's a bit older and I'll bet you'll be pleasantly surprised

[MantaRay]

I have to say that I wouldn't immediately be thinking ADHD either. I agree with it sounding like your DD is understimulated and I would wonder if she is gifted or something like that. An under-stimulated child looks a lot like a child with ADD.

I think it's important that the carer has spoken to you so you are aware of what is going on, but I think she has chosen her words very poorly. I too would be talking to the director. I think you also need to look at what the centre is prepared to do for your child to see if things will improve. Some kids need more challenging tasks, some need to be moved up at an earlier age than other kids. The centre should be flexible in finding something that will work in this situation.

I hope that things end up working out.

[titti]

Hi all, sorry for the late reply, I had some computer problems...

The teacher is the daughter of the owner/director of the centre, so there is not much point talking to them. On the other hand, apparently DD has "improved".
The carer/teacher has noticed that when DD sits with other 2 children becomes more disturbing and active and loses concentration easily.
She separated the 3 children in different groups and got great results. On the other hand my DD has shown great initiative by suggesting new activities (I guess the teacher started to listen to her complaints).
I am amused at the "homework" (as my DD calls the work she does at home, by herself, without being prompted) she does after childcare. She sits on her little desk and create new collage, drawings with different techniques or trying spelling new words. She has recently started to play a game with me of adding and subtracting. She will be in kindy next year so hopefully she will enjoy her time there.
THanks to all of you for your support.
x

[Inertia]

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