Is it just a form of Emotional Torture?

[thepixie]

Oh PP it does sound like torture. Maybe she's just not ready yet.
There's nothing wrong with that, and while it's hard because you're pregnant with #2, it can't be as hard as knowing she is there crying for you.

[~clover~]

Maybe you are right & she's just not ready.
Do you leave her at all out side of DC?
Most children will have this sort of reaction. (Mine have been good so far!)
It is because when you are leaving they think you are leaving & not coming back.
Thats why most centres encourage you to say good bye & that you'll be back instead of sneaking out. After a few weeks the child will usually realise that you WILL be back.
Maybe you could just leave her for about an hour at a time to start with til she calms down a bit, then gradually leave her longer.
An hour is only a short time til she see's you again & she hopefully won't get so distressed & worked up in that time.
Just make sure you reassure her every time that you will be back soon.
Maybe you could even leave something of yours with her, so she knows you'll be back for it? A bangle, or a hair clip or something small?

I put DD1 into DC the first time at 16 months for a few hours at a time & she was fine initially. After 2 - 3 weeks she started to get upset, but was fine with in an hour or so.
After a few more weeks she was fine.
DD2 didn't start till she was 3. & she's been fine. The second she walks in the door I'm forgotten about & its been like that from day one!

If its too much for you, don't push it. But just the hour at a time for a while might be what she needs.