yup - what Leash said

hun, mum did FDC for a very large part of my childhood and teen years. she was interviewed (and she herself interviewed) for many many families. part of the process is for the carer to be upfront - no point saying they're going to do something, then not doing it. they are independent businesses given referrals by a central "unit" - the LAST thing they want to do is have bad word of mouth because they've not done what they said. she had different parents requiring different routines for their kids - and if she felt that she could not adhere to that, she would tell the parents that she didn't think that she would be the most suitable carer for their children. as much as she used CC with us as kids, she didn't do it with kids whose parents requested she not do it kwim?

i would recommend you check the ages of the other kids that she will have in care at the time - as much as it is fantastic to have children of similar age for the playing factor, when you're putting a child of O's age (and needs) in care, you're probably better of making sure he is the only infant. older children (M's age, maybe a bit younger) will understand when she says the baby needs to be fed/cuddled etc - children his age won't get it

hope that helps

BG

M is old enough to tell you what is going on