Should i send her to Kindy?

[Pretty Butterfly]

I would send her next year, but give her full time pre school this year. Most schools in my area discourage you from sending them if thier birthday is after April, as they usually are just not ready, and end up being kept back at some point. But you know your daughter best!! maybe ask the school what they think? Starting school too early can be very detrimental. If she goes this year, will that make her a year younger than all of her friends as well? Will she graduate at 17 instead of 18? She may be put into "younger" sports teams if she's in a different age brackett too... Not sure if I helped or not, but good luck!!

ETA: Now I know what I mean...in NSW the "norm" is they have their 6th bday in kindy, and their 18th in year 12. If your daughter goes this year, she'll turn 18 6 months after graduation. Hope thats clearer, sorry!!

[smiles4u]

Yeh, in Victoria they prefer if the child's 5th b'day is after I think the 29th of April U start 'em the nxt yr !!!

.... My daughter's b'day is the 5th of May,... And I'm much HAPPIER for her to start later no matter how ready she appears.

I myself started school at 5yrs & 3wks back in the 1971 AND I truely believe I would have been beta off startin the yr later.

[MaryP]

Hi,

My daughter just turned 6 in Jan and has just started Prep last week. It is an individual thing, but I am so glad I waited. Academically she was ready last year, but emotionally she wasn't.

I talked to a lot of parents about this subject and I found that I never came across a parent (with older kids) that thought 'I wish I had started my child in school earlier' but I came across many that said 'I wish I had waited another year'. Personally I think it could be socially damaging to hold a child back in prep, so once you start your daughter in prep it would be hard if she then doesn't cope as well as you had wished.

I lot of parents talk about their children being ready for prep because they can write their name or they know the sounds of the alphabet, but there is also social and emotional readiness. How would they cope if their friend told them they didn't want to play with them? How will they cope with the long school day and following instructions?

I did find last year a bit of a challenge with my daughter - She was 5.5 mid way through the year, and she started to need further stimulation than what she was getting at kinder. She also does other activities (swimming, gym) so this helped a bit.

On her first day of school last Thursday I really thought 'thank god' that I didn't send her last year.

With my daughter, however, she never thought she might go to school - we didn't buy her a uniform and she just always knew that she was going to kinder. We didn't repeat kinder because I had held her back from starting (she started 3 yr old kinder at 4, 4 yr old kinder at 5, etc.). I'm wondering if it may be harder in your case because your daughter thinks she might be going. She may now find it hard to repeat kinder because all her friends are moving on.

Sorry, probably have given you some conflicting advice here, but good luck with your decision.

Cheers, Mary