T, I would be holding her back another year and start her in 2010 - that's when Paige will be starting and she is older than Lily. Especially with her speech issues, you really want her to be on top of that as much as she can be when she starts or she may struggle with school and the learning side of it. Plus you've said she is quite shy and I just don't think she is ready for school because of her other behaviour issues you've been having with her and it is not worth repeating them when they will benefit more from having another year at home rather than another year of kindergarten/prep/year 1 (whatever the equivalent is)