Gawd I hate mummy guilt!

The fact that she's settling down fairly quickly is a good sign. She may just be feeling overwhelmed by all the changes in her life. What can seem minor to us is major to a little one. Like the others have said, routine, being consistent, being positive...it all helps.

When DS2 went through a similar phase (and I still keep it up now, even though he's happy to go) I would walk through the door, ask him to put his bag away, sign him in, put sunscreen on, have a quick chat to the carer, give him a kiss (and quick cuddle) and say goodbye (with a smile and something like "see ya later aligator"). I kept it short and sweet and don't look back in case I catch his eye.

In the afternoon we talk about his day and I ask lots of questions and listen to what he has to tell me. Now we have moved on to learning the days of the week. He's starting to understand what things he does on what days.

The other thing I've done when I've had concerns is to talk to his carer (and/or the director). They agreed to give me updates and let me know how he was going throughout the day (although this was for a different situation).