It's insane isn't it. As far as I understand, 3yo kindy is mostly about socialisation and getting your kids used to structure, so if you found a playgroup with structure that might work just as well? Our playgroup has playtime, with rules, then when the bell rings it's outside play time, and then they're supposed to wash their hands on their way back in, then it's snack time where they all have to wait and sing a cute little grace before they can eat and then storytime/songtime. There's quite a bit of structure, they know what's expected of them and what happens when, so I think that will be good enough for me.

So if you can't get your bub into 3yo, or don't want to, there's another good option. If you can find a good playgroup.