Oh mama - I am so sorry that things are so difficult for you.

I have been living with a very stressed baby too but my DS#2 is only 8 months old and is settling down now. I have been at the absolute end of my tether too - so I do know what it is like - DS#2 had severe sleep issues and wouldn't sleep day or night.

Obviously your son is recieving medical treatment and care - this must be very stressful for you with all the tests and medication.

I was just wondering has any mention of allergies/intolerances been made. I was just wondering if something like Sue Dengate's site or books might help you piece some of this puzzle together. Google Fed Up and should come across her site. I just had a look in one of her books that I have and she has some information in there on reflux and sleep apnoea. Many intolerances to food are not medically recognised as being linked to medical conditions but I know personally that DS#2's screaming and lack of sleep does appear to be related to certain food intolerances. Vegemite is high in amines - I think - please someone correct me if I am wrong and these are one type of food chemical that can cause a problem. My DS has been helped by a low salicylate diet - he is a bit grumpy today because I think I ate something a little too high in salicylates yesterday - I still learning and don't always get it right!

Hopefully someone will come along with some more specific advice and experience with sleep apnoea and reflux.

I wish you all the best and hope you have some relief soon,
TICKLISH