thanks trillian. i have been explaining what sort of tools are at the dentist and the chair and the light etc but the more i say (and i am being very lighthearted and not saying drill, needle etc) she seems to get more anxious!

will they use a needle for children or is there something else they use? also, i am going to my dentist who isnt a peadiatric dentist .. does that matter?

i think it is my fault because since we had our second daughter i had been letting DD1 do her own teeth in the morning and getting her dad to do her teeth at night. maybe this isnt enough! i feel i should have been doing it for her! and then there are those times on holidays etc when they arent done at all! and all the junk that she has at times doesnt help! :-( my poor DD!