I would think the ga, scary as it is for us as mums, would be less traumatic for your DD and less likely to result in a wariness of dentistry work cos she wouldn't see any of the equipment or feel the needles etc. but I haven't had any first hand experience.
Firstly I would check with your GP about the heart murmer and ask some questions about going under a GA and what that would mean for your DD. If there are no issues with that then I would see if you can get a second opinion if you are unsure about her having a GA. It does sound at that age though that it might be less traumatic than being in the chair.
DH and I have talked about it, and discussed further with my dentist friend and have decided to go with the GA (providing that all is ok with the outcome of the heart murmur). We are booking it for October, cause there is more chance of the heart murmur having been invetigated, rather than the the date available to us in September.
I really doubt DD would cope too well in the chair, and I am sure she would pick up on my uneasiness of the needles and such at the dentist.. We are going to explain it to her about a week or so before it happens. Am hoping that is enough time for her to process it without being too long and freak her out.
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