baby spiral fracture feel so bad

[diannescruffy]

I hope your little girls leg heals really quick. It's a terrible feeling when our babies are sick or hurt and we can't fix them.

Regards,
Dianne

[{sarah}]

Awww poor bubba girl I personally would be pushing the point with your nephew, he has lied to your face (& his mother's) by saying she rolled & hit her head when clearly it wasn't her head that was injured. At this point his mother isn't going to discpline him, so maybe broach it from the direction of "you aren't going to be in trouble, we just need to tell the doctor what happened so we can get DD better." As for your sister, that makes me so cross. SHE should have pushed the point with her DS & she most definitely shouldn't be trying to place the blame on you.

it's such a horrible situation & I know I would be feeling the same way.

[Footsteps]

i really hope your bubbas leg heals quick and it sounds like your sister is probably ashamed and is directing her anger at you. not that she should be at all. no advice just huge hugs to you and your angel xxx

[AnyDream]

What a horrible situation. So sorry your little bubba has broken her leg, fortunately at this age it should heal up really quickly.

I have no doubt that whatever happened was an accident - in the sense of even if your nephew did something he wasn't supposed to (and knew he shouldn't) there is no way he could've anticipated that the outcome would be a broken leg, kwim? So I think the helpful strategy here is to try to shift away from blaming - accept that is HAS happened and you can't turn back time - and you can't peer into the room and find out exactly what happened either - and now start to think about what you need to do from here on in, kwim?

For starters, you are going to have to supervise your DD 100% whenever those children are there. Don't make a big deal about it but make sure your DH and any other adults are on the same page. This can be done discretely without being in your sister's face if you want to avoid conflict, or deliberately in her face so she realises there is a consensus of concern by other adults in your child's life (grandparents, mutual friends) if you choose to go that way.

I think the issue of concern is that this is part of a larger pattern of behaviour. Hard to say without knowing what he was doing in the previous incidents. Have you talked to her or her partner in the past about the things you have caught him doing? If not, leave it be for a bit and then have a conversation with her - not just about this latest incident - but about everything and why you are concerned about him. Wilfully causing hurt to small children and animals etc can be an early sign of sociopathic tendencies - I do so hope that's not the case here - but in any case it's a set of behaviours that he needs to learn is unacceptable. Esp if he is doing it to get his mother's attention, kwim?

[Lulu]

I wouldn't let your nephew near your baby again. A spiral fracture is caused by a twisting motion of the limb. Like a skiing accident (leg locked in a boot) or stepping in a hole and twisting at the same time.

Is she walking? no? Because it's not like she tripped and fell then is it? (sorry about my tone I think the dr should have a little more idea about this).

It appears that someone twisted your childs leg till it broke hun

Look up spiral fractures and see how they are caused. Your nephew needs help and now - for all his behaviours xoxoxoxo

[Miss E]

Oh honey, the poor little poppet, I hope you are both okay. FWIW my niece broke her arm at about the same age, falling off of her big sisters bed. It's all healed fine, so try not to worry too much.

As for your nephew, I think it would be worth having a look into what Lulu said about spiral fractures. If that is the only way that they can occur then your really need to have a serious chat with your sister because by the sound of things her little boy needs some professional help. If he did do it then he is only likely to get worse as he gets older, not to be overly dramatic but you know what they say about children/people who start off hurting animals and small children.

[Willow]

PJ - Just wanted to drop in and give you a big My 18 month old broke his leg last year too. It was very distressing so I understand how you feel. Different circumstances, he basically fell onto the grass, it was the simplest thing, but ended the same way.

I understand the constant looks and questions, we got the same thing. It was a looooong 6 weeks. The number of people who asked if DOCS were called made me want to punch something and cry.

Rest assured that it will heal just fine and she shouldn't have any lasting issues. You'd never know my little man had broken his. He was in a cast for 6 weeks and it healed beautifully.

As for your nephew...if you feel that you can't confront your sister about it, I would definitely make sure you don't leave her unsupervised with him again.

I hope your little girl is feeling better soon.

[AnyDream]

I wouldn't let your nephew near your baby again. A spiral fracture is caused by a twisting motion of the limb. Like a skiing accident (leg locked in a boot) or stepping in a hole and twisting at the same time.

Sorry Lulu but I'm going to disagree with you. I had a spiral fracture on my toe by stubbing it hard against a wall while I was walking. No twisting involved - just movement & impact. 1pj If you are worried about this by all means discuss it with your doctor but i don't think you can jump to the conclusion that Lulu has.

[Lulu]

MD, it's alot easier for an adult to sustain a spiral fracture. We have the weight and velocity behind our movements as well as the range of motion iykwim?

The bone has to be twisted to break like that, if she was a baby sitting on the floor it is alot harder to do so - although not impossible. (and it can be a trigger for further follow up because children that are deliberately hurt often present with these types of fractures).

It is just as possible that it wasn't an accident and I think it needs to be addressed ie - not allowing the kids to be in that situation again at the least. It's worth further investigation don't you think?

1pj - I hope I'm not making you uncomfortable, it's not a nice situation and I don't want to cause you further stress

xoxoxo

P.S Zinc can help bones heal faster and some arnica cream would help too xoxoxo