We are going through this too, we used actilax for about 2 years, before that we used osmolax and tried swapping back as the actilax stopped working but it caused an allergic reaction. So now we are using movical, trying with a single dose. The pead wants a double dose but don't think it will work. We used a tablet, ducolax but only for 10 days aren't allowed to use it any longer not sure why as it made dd get up and go which is what we were aiming for. Apparently movical does the same when the dosage is right, actilax is a softener but we can manage it with diet. I understand what you mean about them missing out on life we have the same issues.