just a little bit over it.

[MistyFying]

belfie sometimes it's good it get it all out.

[belfie]

*Beema* - thanks heaps. I read your post and i feel like such a whinger (I know you didn't mean for me to) but it's true, there are so many different shades of normal. I know the thing I always come back to is that I can whinge, b!tch and moan as much as I want... at the end of the day, it won't change anything. I'm a big believe in change what you can and accept what you can't. But it's funny, some days the ability to do that just deserts you. It sounds like you are doing an amazing job too, I can only imagine how frustrating and difficult it must be for you. I feel both humbled and honoured that you took the time to respond to my post. I hope that your DD continues to progress and all that hard and frustrating work pays off, as I'm sure it will. And as you said, there are different normals, and ultimately, that's what's normal for THIS little person - whether that is movement problems, or allergies, or itching or whatever.

SamiH - i have to repeat myself to you too - thanks heaps and lol yes you did make me larf with the crawling bit. And I know you've struggled with the eating stuff too. I must admit, I had wondered how you found it with the allergies? I know your DS gets anaphylaxis - if you don't mind my asking, how do you cope with that? Did you find it stressful to begin with?

MistyFying - thanks for the hug, and yes getting it out did help. I think i've been feeling that this one big whinge was just locked inside for a long time... now it's out... for better or for worse - it's probably better than being inside still!

And as I usually do, I got through my day of mopes and I'm feeling mostly better about it all. Both my FIL & MIL have advised me to wean asap rather than cut out eggs/wheat... even tho I'm planning to stop in 3-4 weeks anyway! So I've just ignored that little gem. We're back to the paed tomorrow which will hopefully be helpful and i'm chasing up speechy/feeding clinic options. And I'll just remember that if we're in the 5%, well clearly we're just extra special! (and I always thought normal was just a little bit boring)

Thanks again,
Belfie

[SamiH]

i wont lie - everything freaked me out after DS nearly died! Without exaggerating, I told myself off so many times for not being more vigilant and watching my kids - that I probably went overboard - but hey, I thought they were safe with extended family, but obviously they didnt believe me when I told them he was allergic and just decided to push the boundaries - and they still do with soft drinks, hard lollies - all that type of thing - stuff that my kids dont have normally because somehow I am "depriving" them . At least you have medical proof - we didnt have that to start - just my word!!! You will encounter people who will roll their eyes at you and just think you are being overprotective etc - and that is hard - but it will become habit. And as I posted previously - at least you know early so introduce his diet accordingly and not have to revamp at 2 or 3 years old.

Oooh what a rant!

I have relaxed a bit now - but remember my supermarket story - that never occurred to me - anyone who reads this - my DS started playing with the boxes which all the nuts are kept in in the fruit section at the supermarket - he didnt know they were nuts in their shells etc - just lucky I screamed the place down and he stopped - yes embarrassing LOL - but it is little things like that that never crossed my mind.

Having said I have relaxed - he is having his first sleepover at his bestie's house tonight - I know his mum well and have told her again the Epipen will be packed, his bestie has been told he cant have crunchy nut cornflakes for brekky blah blah - but I am still a tad nervous

[*Beema*]

*Beema* - thanks heaps. I read your post and i feel like such a whinger (I know you didn't mean for me to).

And I'll just remember that if we're in the 5%, well clearly we're just extra special! (and I always thought normal was just a little bit boring)

Hun you are not a whinger

Gosh I have written lots of posts, being concerned, worried or tired or not sure whether I am stressing about something I shouldn't be! It is all a part of being a mum who care so very deeply for the health, happiness and wellbeing of their child.

That 5% is very special Glad you are chosing the best time for you to wean.

How did you appointment with the Paed go? Hope you got some answers.

Take care
xxoo

[belfie]

SamiH - thanks hun I appreciate hearing how it was for you. It sounds like it was really tough - and as for overboard, well is there really an overboard reaction? I think you had very real & valid concerns that you had to be careful. I can really understand that. And yeah as for the eye-rollers, well given DH & I have dietary issues and I'm sure there's already folks who think we're precious anyway... well they'll have a good laugh at us with a kid who has issues too. But the medical proof, as you say, does help. So saying, the first thing my MIL said was "oh surely he can have a little bit of egg can't he?" Plus MIL & FIL are the types to keep trying to push salty sugary food anyway - they're always saying "oh he can have some sausage now... or some icecream...?" It's like...are you insane? no no and NO! He does NOT need that crap - so I'm kinda prepared for their food stupidity as he gets older.
And I was glad to hear the sleepover went well - good on you.

*Beema*

Gosh I have written lots of posts, being concerned, worried or tired or not sure whether I am stressing about something I shouldn't be! It is all a part of being a mum who care so very deeply for the health, happiness and wellbeing of their child.

Aaaw thanks. I've gotta remember that. I guess it's just so easy to have it all be out of perspective. Well the paed was the oppositve of the RCH doc. The RCH doc made us feel that really his eating was way off track and we need to get onto it. The Paed made me feel like it was nothing and that we were the "worried well" (even though he was very nice about it). He also thought I should just stop expressing - GRRRRR - SO angry about that. And DH was clueless and joking about how I was addicted and wouldn't stop. VERY cross about that - two men sitting joking about how I couldn't stop expressing. Needless to say DH and I had a "chat" about that one! Anyway, paed thought speechy wouldn't hurt for feeding, and ENT to be "in the system" was a good idea, apparently his tonsils are pretty big. But yeah, i'm pretty over that paed tbh, and I don't think we need to see him again.

And honestly, X is such a chubby healthy little fella that this does minimise the need to intervene, and I think docs just think oh he's fine. but I know what his eating is like... and I can see the distress just increasing... so whether that's normal or not I'm just gonna try and follow my mummy gut - he (and I) need some help with it, cos we are SO going backwards. And I'm mostly ok with the dietary stuff. I've kinda come to terms with the allergy stuff. And I WILL friggin' pump for 20 more days and FIL, MIL, SIL and paed can go jump!!!

K, rant over now. Thanks again ladies

[MantaRay]

It can be very overwhelming when it seems to be one thing after another. It's ok to feel down or frustrated from time to time. I'm sorry that you now have allergies to deal with - I hope you are able to make the special diet work for your family

[SamiH]

WAHHHHHHHHHHHH what - only 20 days until our babies turn 1!!!

And, I noticed MR's DS has a birthday on 25/09 too - what a special day it is

[MantaRay]

Wow Sami, it is a special day!! And I can tell you that it's hard to believe that my baby is about to turn 3!!