Hi everyone, thank you so much for your support.

I think I've just got to do some research on asthma as I don't know much about it- which is where the fear is coming from. Schmickers thanks for helping me to understand it more clearly, it's interesting that the doc I saw the other day said he'd never heard of a fat happy wheezer, and said there's nothing he could hear in the lungs.

Sorta came out with the feeling "oh god he thinks I have Munchausen syndrome" as he just stared at me when I stopped speaking about ds's occasional wheeze

again thank you all so much- if it wasn't for you I would be a nervous wreck by now!