We went through the kidney issues when DS was 7 weeks. We spent a weekend in hospital with a UTI. It was awful, it was scary. We now have to have follow up u/s in 5 months to see if kidneys are ok. I was SO against circumcision. If doc had come back and said it could all be fixed by circumcision I would've jumped at the chance. It's all relative I guess, but basically Im saying compared to what it was and could've been, circumcision is far better.
I am hoping DS doesn't have kidney relfux (which is what you were talking about) but he was antibiotics for 10 weeks because of it (and some kids are on ab's indefinitely, maybe 2 years) and also there are possibilities for surgery and quite severe kidney damage. So if you think of it as preventing that it might help you stress a little less. Still hard I know xo