Suggestions for helping my 7 year old to deal with his grandad's passing

[christy]

I think the counsellor at school is a fantastic plan of action. They will have a good idea on how to help children get through grief. Often having something like a photo or something is perfect to give them something to hold onto, also telling him how you have gone through the grief yourself.

I am not someone who has done counselling, but one who has been through death as a young girl and young adult. I found that when my family were most able to say "You know, I don't know... this sucks" was when I felt like it was more real and okay to feel that way as well. not an easy thing to go through, or to watch your child go through as well.

[mrsmac]

Good point Christy, I was very honest with Jess, I told her I was angry mum and died and that I felt it wasn't fair.

[kas]

Thanks ladies,
DS appears to be doing well. He has met with the school councillor (not that he has told me this, she called just to let me know she had spoken with him and she explained she wouldn't tell anyone what he said but he could tell people if he wanted to)

When my mum was away recently she found a kids book "when a grandparent dies, a guide to grief" and said to me to bring it out next time he has a moment. Well he hasn't, so i am not sure if i get it out for him and risk his emotions being dug up or let it be until and if he does have another moment.

Anyways, thanks for your feedback and advice.