We decided that with DD it had to be either the whole class or a very small number.. like 4 or 5 close friends. I saw the hurt a friends daughter went through at being one of only 2 or 3 left out and that was horrible.
ETA: I think if you go the small number its fine to put on the invites, Please be aware we have not been able to ask the whole class o something so it can be kept quiet.
I remember someone here posting that they can ask the number of children for their age - so if turning 5 invite 5 friends! I think that is a great way to get around it and is a reasonable number to have at a party !Good luck working it out. xox
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