it's really not that hard once you get used to it...I wash nappies about every 2nd day and until then they just sit in a bucket in the laundry, hardly even notice they are there.

I would much rather have a bucketful of cloth than a bin full of sposies! I would ignore your in-laws, your bub, your bub's bottom and nappies...DD has never had a bad case of nappy rash (only a couple of very mild episodes which were cleared up overnight with a bit of cornflour) and I believe it's because she is in cloth.